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He graduated Jr. High with a 4.0 today.

I think a milestone should be added today to this blog.   My son graduated Jr. High, will be a freshman next year and had a 4.0.  For a kid who could not put two words together during pre school, this is a milestone. 

He talks, he talks too much, he is popular, words that if you had asked me 10 years ago, I would of said how, he never speaks a word to any of his class mates. He has tons of friends today.  The selective mutism never came back, but there are still hangovers to those days.  He is a perfectionist and it is his way or the highway. 

He will be a teacher, lawyer or preacher when he grows up, his word are so spot on.  The kids at school call him  Dr. >>>>, like Dr. Phil since he can tell them what in their life is not working and get them on the right track.   Parents call him the voice of reason.  They always know they can go to him to find out what really went on.  Words are a big part of his life.  He is a very good writer. It comes easily to him. Sometimes I think for all the early struggles, it should be easy.  Time will tell.

I  still sit in amazement at how far we have come and how many paths we went down.  Always fearing every grade that it would re-appear, luckily it did not.  How many teacher I had to train on what it was. How many feared it and tried to put him in a ” special class”.  How many were annoyed that they would have to have a child with Selective Mutism who turned out to be gifted.

So instead of going down the path they wanted him to go, I had to bully my way up.  I mean fight hard for him, fighting with the school administration, talking with state administrators who did not want to fund his alt test. Funding it ourselves and finding out we were right all along. 

The point was he was not mute and dumb, he was selectively mute and brilliant.  People have to learn the difference.  Einstein did not speak until he was 5.  That piece of info carried me through many a dark day. Helen Keller was blind deaf and mute, but not stupid.  My son did not speak at school, but did at home, so I saw different child then they say everyday.

So my advice and why I wrote this blog was to help others, since I had no road map.  Do not give up on your child, Dont’ ever give up, follow your gut, and do what you can do to make it right.

  1. Benjee
    June 10, 2009 at 12:18 am

    Hello, i just discorvered your blog. wow! I too have a 10 years old son who overcame his selective mutism two years ago today.

    It’s such a great feeling to read about your son and his journey! Benjamin still have anxiety but he talks, play football and loves LEGO. He still have difficulties in big group of children(i think about his football team, he’s quiet and calm for example). Was your son like that too?

    Today, he asked me why it was difficult for him to talk to girls from his grade 4 class? I don’t really know what to say…

    Anyway, just want to thank you for taking the time to write this blog!

    Marie-Claude (From Canada)

    • Tiffany
      January 17, 2011 at 1:52 pm

      Hi: I am encouraged by reading your comments. My daughter is 4 and is experiening selective mutism. I joined this blog to talk to other parents for support and assistance with what to do to help my daughter. I have found specialists, but I am unsure who to use to work through her quiet moments. I would love to hear fom others to help us in this journey.

  2. Maria
    May 11, 2011 at 4:14 am

    Hi. I have a 9year old who has selective mutism. Sometimes i think it wont last, as i havee seen so much improvement in him, other days i wonder whether it will really go away.

    I would really recommend the book ‘helping your child with selective mutism’ by angela mcholm. It is available on amazon. She is an expert and her book was incredibly accurate and helpful. I have been lucky enough to meet her in person and she gave a great deal of helpful advice after meeting our son. The book also details how the parents can make a real difference to the progress of the child and get them through it more quickly.
    I hope this helps

    Hope you find it useful

    • karen
      September 30, 2011 at 2:53 am

      Hi, I have identical twin boys with SM , they are now 6 in the first grade and have had SM since about the age 3. It is incredibly frustrating. At home they are outgoing, outspoken (like so many others with SM) Now in first grade I can see an issue with reading/spelling/ processing. We have seen Dr. Shipon-Blum. My boys go to a private school, along with their 9 and 11 yr old brother and 3 year old sister. I am truly at wits end on how to help them.Now I am seeking perhaps an iep, also tutoring 3/wk (in their class room) . October 28 in NY the Child Mind Institute is having a conference i hope to attend and get other ideas. M heart breaks, as soon as we turn the corner and see scholl they shut down.

  3. Tiffany
    May 18, 2011 at 1:55 pm

    Thank you for this info! I truly appreciate it.

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