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Teachers were not recommending a 504 or IEP for selective mustim.

I think one of the areas that we relied  a lot on teachers advice for was on the question of should he have the work up and qualify for an IEP or 504 plan.  I heard from parents that have children with disabilities or other conditions that they were put on a 504 or IEP depending on the condition.  The parents called it the “ruby slippers” to getting the educational needs met of their children. Basically it gave them the legal standing to make  or in some cases force accommodation and educational tailoring with in their school for their child.

What the teachers failied to tell me when I asked about 504 or IEP,  was that I was asking for the wrong accommodations.  My son was very bright, he was a good student in their mind, so thier advice to me was why label him, and therefore they recommended nothing should be done. They would make thier own accompations in the class room. That is what I heard year after year, teacher after teacher.  Oh no … you really don’t want to do that, don’t label him, he is too bright.

In the spectrum, I learned in most cases the IEP and 504 are for lower performing or those needing accommodation.  What I  finally learned is that I should of been asking for was a gifted evaluation. Why the teachers did not say anything is interesting. I learned later they don’t like to loose their brightest students out of their classroom and wanted the opportunity to teach him.  But it just was not working and he was not getting the education at the right level.  Now he was so bored and we where loosing his attention.

I talked with other parents to figure it out.   I later learned you can be designated gifted and also have an IEP and or a 504. The issue was education path.  If he was first designated gifted, they would provide the right level of education, then apply the IEP to allow accommodations.  If not the accommodation would be in a lower learning room or in the class room.  Those programs are to slow the process down for learning not accommodate a high learner with additional needs.

Once I asked the right questions, the test was given and with his anxiety he did terribly on the test, as I expected.  Put him in a new room with a strange teacher and he  would not pass any test, let alone a gifted test.  So they said he does not qualify, we could reapply in a year. Dead end.

 The teachers later explained that the testing for gifted given at the school was only one test format and the goals was to keep the number of children who qualify down, since they do not get the funding to the levels needed for these program. The other area is they are not equipped, nor do they want to have a mixture of a high class level of students and a child with accommodations.  I think it was a fact that they would need to change the way they teach and did not desire to do that.

They did give me a clue, that there were 10 total tests that the state would recognize, the school just would not give them, they chose the hardest one to pass to keep the numbers down.  Nor would they pay the $1200 to test him privately.  They basically said again, if we could afford it we should try that route.  If not, he would not be accommodated.

 So this put us in a world of he is so advanced, but the tests that the school needs a grade on says he did not qualify …so your basically stuck.

 Should we invest in the tests outside? Why would the school not offer the other tests?  It lead me on another road in this long journey to figure out how to get the right education to my child that fits for him, not the school district process.  I had ideas, armed with options and wanted to not let this go. I call the state education board and learned some interesting facts…..

 I would ask each year the teacher if this was something that should be done for my son.  Their answer was, oh you don’t want to do that.  He is far too smart and you really do not want  him labeled. 

Now this was confusing to me.  In the end we did have him tested outside at great cost and he was tested as and designated as gifted, it was needed for him to be in the right setting for a selectively mute child to excel, not what the school district dictates for main stream students. This designation put him on the correct path and he excelled.  It took a lot of our effort and our money, but it was so worth it.

  1. KC
    May 8, 2008 at 1:30 pm

    It seems to me that your son is quite similar to my daughter. We are finding out that she is quite bright as well. I mean, I knew that, but she has had some private developmental testing. She’s hitting the ceiling for most of the non-verbal portions of the tests, but of course is failing to perform on the verbal portions. I’m convinced that she’s gifted, but just need to be able to prove it. I’m hoping that the neuropsychological testing we are doing will be proof enough to warrant further testing. She’s only 4.5 though, so we may need to wait a bit. At any rate, if she doesn’t establish a rapport with the tester, she may do poorly on any gifted tests too. So we may be in the same quandary that you found yourself in.

    Thank you so so much for starting this blog. I’ve been behind in reading it, because we’ve been going through the evaluations for the past 5 weeks. We go for our review next week.

    Your blog has been so helpful to me.

    Thank you so much!

    I blog about my daughter’s evaluations on http://raisingsmartgirls.wordpress.com if you were interested in reading some of our journey.

    October 1, 2008 at 10:34 am

    Hi all!
    Nice site!


  3. Andrea
    August 27, 2013 at 3:02 pm


    I know its been a while since this blog was posted up but I was wondering if you could answer a question for me.
    My son is selectively mute, he is 5 and he just started Kindergarten.I was wondering if there was some sort of accommodation made for the gifted test, since I know my child wont answer the verbal portion of the test even if he knows all of it?

  1. April 19, 2008 at 5:53 pm

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