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If there was an area that we should of done better, it would be with his teachers. They experienced first hand the condition of selective mutism and even after it has been diagnosed, they did not know what to do for it. They wanted to help and were not trained how. How to help? None of us knew.
They did try, but all were within the speaking world teaching methods, which I feel are not effective. They tried various methods like flash cards, did not work for my son. They tried incentives of candy and treats, no go. We sent others into the class room to observe. No help. Came for home visits, he did not speak to her at home. We video taped it in hopes that if he saw himself it might do something. Ditto, no change.
The question is DO SOMETHING, or is it better than ignore it? For months we ignored it at the school level, working on an outside solutions. We were ill equipped to work with his teachers. I learned over many years to be well prepared. Articles in a notebook to show the teachers it was an actual condition. I always did a meeting during the morning of the first day of school. I would show up one hour early to introduce him and to talk about selective mutism and what to expect. Some of his teachers where very open and glad I had come by, others looked at it as a bother and something else they were going to have to deal within their classroom.
I could always spot those teachers since they asked about an aide. An aide??? He does not speak, he will do everything you ask except answer you or speak to you or the other students. He would not answer the aide, so what good would that do. Will you be in the class room, they would ask. I can be there as much as you like, but it will not make a difference. How can we mark his progress if he does not speak? You will have to find creative ways to interact with him.
I just did not have the words myself to describe selective mutism to them in all its aspects. Does he have behavioral issues? No. Can I or other children catch it? No. What caused it? Something in has brain is shut down in the school setting.
The questions were endless. I had very few answers that were in detail. Once the selective mutism had been resolved the conversation with the teachers were almost disbelieving that he had selective mutism. We wanted to make them the early warning system to pick up on any behavior that would indicate it was coming back. They would always report at the parent teacher meeting how well spoken he was and how smart he was. They said they would like him to participate more. More …. to us it was great that we were even having this discussion about more participation.
They were more concerned that he was finishing the school year ahead of the other children and wanted to move him ahead a grade or move him to another school for the top gifted children, They got a big resounding NO from us on both accounts. But that was the issue that would be the crux of the issues for grade 1-6. Once he has his voice back, how much change do we want him to have?
I learned a lot and if a child is one grade above the school level the school in not obligated to teach the child at their level. That is a sad fact in our school systems today. They just expand the strands of learning. Thus we had to choose in our minds between keeping in place and speaking and getting them to teach him at this level. I never thought we would have to make that choice.
What was the school was willing to do? To them he seemed fine and advanced, so they just want me to go away. We had come so far and I would not give up. So what was next?
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Just as the woman who I worked with missed the signs with her daughter, so did we. Even as an infant, my son would not make the same kind of eye contact that his older brother was doing at the same age. We talked about it and decided he just did not like to look or focus on our face, like his older brother did. He would look focus at us and then divert his eyes or turn away. When he a little older, he had a thrusting motion with his tongue, that became a clue to us when he was in preschool that he was anxious.
Thinking back, I should not have written off that simple turn of the head. It made us think he was shy. So for the first two years, we had already made assumptions about him, we should not of. We thought about perhaps he had sight or hearing issues and had those checked out.
He had the loudest cry and piercing scream as a baby. We use to say it made us sweat when he cried. Again reassured that it was just a different child than our first and not out of the norm.
I talked and compared with other mothers. It lead me down a path to accept as normal things that should of been the first signs of anxiety or selective mutism, when you look at them in total.
When the preschool teacher came to ask us how long he was developmentally delayed, it was a shock. We were clueless, we had missed the cues we saw to give us a hint of the things to come that he did not speak in school came as a total surprise. How did we miss it? He was not delayed at all, but when he was in school without speaking he was to them.
I write this blog as a way of helping other families that may starting on the same roads that we traveled. If it helps one other family, my time writing this will have been worth it.
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It was several years later at a company picnic when a little girl came up to me and I spoke to her,but she did not speak to me. I knew her mother from another department and with the interaction I had just had with the child and what the mother said I spotted it right away as selective mutism.
The mother told me not to bother that he daughter was shy and does not speak around strangers. When I asked if this was the case a school, she said yes. I then asked what the doctor said. She said she never mentioned it to him. I asked if she knew what is was and she said know what what is?
She had no idea that her child had selective mutism, I told her what I thought it was and asked her to go on the Internet and do research and bring it with her the next time she went to the doctors and to the teachers.
It was about a month later that she came by my office and told me she could not thank me enough. That indeed that is what it was for her daughter and that now that they all knew they were all working together on her selective mutism.
Sometimes, if you suspect it, tell the mother or the father. She went on to say they suspected something, but they were too afraid to address it. They just hoped it would go away or she would out grew it.
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The potential we had hoped for to set the bar high, to have him make a leap into a first grade program with high academic and social standards was easy for him, harder for us. He excelled at the program and within that year came out of his shell as the teachers described it.
Pre school would of been a time for him to practice his verbal skills and without that time he did have some ground to make up. What we where able to find out is my son actually thought the words just did not say them. Thus it was just the act of speaking or speaking up that was needing practice.
The interaction for us as parents was harder, since we were not practiced in the ways of the competitive elementary school parent society. Actually it was a shock, since he did not make the school connections in the past. It was our first year of the social side of school that we had missed due to no one invited him or us in the past, since he did not speak due to selective mutism.
In the back of our minds over the next few years, we worried that something would trigger it and the selective mutism would come back, it did not. Were we just lucky? Was there divine intervention? Would it of happened naturally?
I now knew how to spot it early and helped another family who had no idea what was going on with their child.
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I got a response to those reading the blog to remind those as I said in the beginning, that this blog is a chronicle of our families journey with my son who had selective mutism. It traces all the paths we took and all the things we did and the roads we tried to help him overcome this condition. Start at the beginning of the blog entries and read to current day to get the full picture.
He had the condition of selective mutism from 2 to 5 years of age. He is now 13 and has had no sign of the condition since age 5. Read the blog entry on the “If there was ever a time to say your sorry” and the one on “Glass breaking” to find out how we had a break through and he began to speak.
Today, he is the typical mouthy a teenager as you can get. And I love every word… to his friends, all the times he is on his cell phone talking, when he talks back to a teacher…. When he talks back to me.
He loves to bargain and haggle with merchants, he loves to give presentations. He is an old soul with a wonderful way with words. His gift now is truly his words. We say when he grows up, he will be a preacher or a teacher or the best lawyer.
On vacation he told us ‘This is too much paradise”… his friends call him “The voice of reason”. His voice and his words are a wonderful thing. You can read the blog in total from bottom to top at peermentor.wordpress.com I hope this news of our success gives other families just starting this journey hope and advice that it can have a great outcome, as hard as it seem going through it.
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Kindergarten first day was an anxious for us as it was for him.. Actually I think he did better. We spoke to the teacher on the first day, told her of the situation and asked that she tell him ahead of time what they would be doing, watch for any anxiousness on his part and crossed our fingers. Was the selective mustim gone or would it reappear in this new school setting?
The teacher said he was quiet, but did interact and did speak to her and to another child. Good news…day one. The school year progressed and he did very well, still very cautious and somewhat shy but he was speaking and interacting. The teacher was hoping for more interaction and participation, but with all that had gone on for the past 3 years we were thrilled.
One day his teacher called in sick and he had a set back, and was very upset, but other than that, the I’m Sorry stayed verbal and so did his words. When she returned so did the words.
He completed kindergarten with flying colors. My desire was to move him into an accelerated program for first grade that the school offered. He had not been accepted on the first round. I am not sure why, but he was not, so I asked his kindergarten teacher to keep and eye out and if an opening happened, we would want to put him in this learning family class. This would be a huge leap for him to come into his own. These were the brightest children in the school and the most aggressive and highly participatory parents. I hoped that this would be the next step in having him reach his full potential.
We knew he was bright, we just did not know if the pressure of setting the bar higher would make him soar or retreat into his world of selective mutism. As I have all along this journey, I wanted the best for him and for nothing to stand-in his way. Could I expect the same from him as I could from a child with out this condition?
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Time did tell that his selective mutism did not return when he went back to preschool. Some aspects of his control of life did change and became complex. His need to plan the day and his sense of smell became heightened in certain situations.
Planning the day became a big deal in the house. We needed to tell him each morning exactly what was to go on that day. This seemed to give him comfort and if the day turned out to be has we described, he was fine. If the day turned out to be different and not as he would of expected, he would be very anxious and unhappy.
We dropped him off as pre school one day and the teacher got sick and a sub came in. He withdrew and cried. He came home very mad that we had not told him of the change. For years after I would tell his teachers to prepare him in advance for change, if they did not that it would cause him issues.
Another day he was put into another classroom without preparation and that was very unnerving for him. He seemed not to be able to function if the plan changed without some advance notice.
We went on a play date to his friend’s house that had played with him all those years when he did not speak. His friend was delighted he now could speak. We went to his house for the first time. The plan was for me to stay for a while and then leave, to see how he would do. I told my son the plan and he want not happy about me leaving.
We get to the friends house and they greet us. My son walks in and says, This house smells. Mom, I can’t stay, the house smells. I am embarrassed, and I tried to say, oh no there is not smells is this house. At least I could not smell anything. Our friends were horrified, as he continues to say, we have to go, this house smells. After that time, if he was anxious he would tell me it would smell, as a way to tell me he was uncomfortable.
He completed his red shirt preschool year with flying colors, speaking up and now fully participating. The teachers were so pleased with this progress. Kindergarten was now weeks away and all that made him safe and secure to speak was about to change, new school, new friends, how would that effect the fragile hope that the speaking would continue. Was his selective mutism really gone or would it return?
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The school year started out with more anticipation than most. Would he speak? Would he not speak? Time would tell, if the selective mutism would morph into something else? We had given him the gift of a preschool red shirt year to find out.
The school bell rang out and so did his voice. It was just as though he had always spoken. He spoke to the children, to the teachers and even to us…at school!!!!. What a marvelous thing… we waited around to see if there would be any regression, shyness or blank face like in past years. None… OK Check… what is he doing? Did he head right for the play doe…..no…hum he was interacting with the children.?? What… interacting with the children. We were stunned. It was the light switch was on all he was totally different.
When we picked him up as school that day, we asked him how his day was? He said good, but the strangest thing.. All the kids followed me around all day in a big line? Why do you think they were doing that? They all wanted to see and hear me speak.
I smiled; it was as shocking for the children who knew him all these years to see him now speaking. They followed him around for days, like a great wise sage. There were some items that appeared over time in how he handled changed or new situtation that needed to be managed, but over all, it was so gratifying to have him speak, engaged, smiling and interacting with his teachers and his school mates.
His teachers was shocked at his language skills. They pulled me aside after the first day and said they needed to apologize to me. That I was right all along and that his was very very bright and articulate. They had now idea how advances his langue age skills really were. Since there were no tests that they gave that ever showed it.
The days turned to months and the months turned to more comfort that this was not a passing phase that would take him back to the other world of selective mutism? Or would it? Time would tell.
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The next morning was filled with anticipation, would he say I’m sorry again or would it be a one day exception. Would it effect positively effect his selective mutisms? We held our breath.
He came bounding down the stairs, had breakfast,… and spilled his milk. A typical morning with a 5 year old. Then the words, Mommy, I’m sorry, I’ll clean it up. My husband and I stood there stunned. What, he said it in such as normal tone, like he had spoken that word all along. From that day forward it was like a light switch had been turned on and that word Sorry was no longer an issue. Nor did he after time remember that he could not say the word Sorry. We once we realized he did not remember not speaking the word, we did not speak of it again, since we were afraid he might revert.
Preschool started next week, and the teachers had already begun to set up their room. We planned a visit to the school that week to see if it has any effect on his selective mutism. He had not spoken a word at the school for over three years.
We went into his last years teachers class room and she was so delighted to see him.. Oh,xxx how was your summer? She immediately answered; since she knew the drill. Oh I bet it was great.
He then said, Hi Miss R, I had a great summer. The teacher dropped to her knees, my husband and I cried. It was the words we had hoped for him to speak He looked at me as said, mommy what are you crying? We just could not believe our ears. Something happened when the glass broke that broke the silence.
I just sat their watching my son and his teacher on the floor, he was sitting on her lap and he was speaking full sentences to her. She reminded him about the butterfly key chain and that if he spoke she would give him more keys. She called it his key to speaking. She went to the draw and pulled out some more old keys and told him they where his. She later told us, she had practically given up and was going to give them away. My son still has those keys. It was a ground-breaking day.
But how long would it last, would he speak to the children in a new class this year. We waited for Monday for school to start overjoyed at the miraculous progress. Our selectively mute son had a break through of huge proportion.
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My son looked shocked at what had happened. I calmly took him into the living room and started showing him the shards of glass and pieces of bowls. I told him if there was ever a day to say you’re sorry- this would be it. He started by spelling out S_O_R_R_Y, mommy, I know I should not have done that, mommy. His brother came in to find his clay art project that we so proudly displayed also in smashed pieces. He was not happy and his brother knew it. S-o-r-r-y , s-o-r-r-y, he spelled over and over again.
There was something in me that wanted to push the issue at this time. Perhaps if he would not speak at school, perhaps we could gain closure on the I’m sorry speak at home issue. I started by talking to him and telling him how sad I was, picking up the shards of glass and letting them fall through my hands. I kept calmly telling him that if there ever was a time to say you’re sorry this was it. An hour went on, we cried, discussed the incident, and discussed why he could not say he was sorry. This looked at though it was going to be another dead-end. My husband came in and said that I was pushing him too far and that I should stop and let it go. I did not.
Another hour went by and no progress, then just when I was about to give up… my son started to say something. In a very low tone, not in his own voice, it came out, slowly, I-I_mmmm, s-ooorrrreee in a very deep voice. What what did you say? I could hardly believe my ears; did I hear what I think I have just heard? M husband came into the room in time to hear him say again in this very deep voice and very slow as if it was difficult to get it out, I—mmmm Soorr–eee.
We were overjoyed. To hear I’m sorry, said in words, it what we had waited to hear for the past 3 and a half of his 5 years. There it was, he said it. We praised him, and asked him if he could say the same thing to his brother. His brother came in and this time he said, I’m Sorry, I broke your art project,…. it was clear and distinct now, in regular speech page and in his own voice and tone. He brother was amazed; hey mom, he said it, finally a break through.
If you ask me what I think happened, I think the trauma of breaking the crystal caused some connection in his brain to connect, that were disconnected. It was like a switch was finally connected and information was now flowing normally. But for how long, would this be a one-time event? Would it affect his selective mustim. It was late and tomorrow would tell us more.
Good night Mommy, I’m so sorry for breaking your things. It brought the biggest smile to my face in a long time. To me it was worth breaking everything we owned to have a day like that. The words I’m Sorry Mommy was a gift that was finally here.
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It was a weekend and the house was a buzz with activity, family has come to visit, cousins for the kids to play with. The drill was to remind everyone, to be careful in the living room, since all my good crystal and such was on the coffee table and that this a no touch, no play zone.
It was something I had set up when the children were small to protect the nice pieces and still have them displayed and for the past 5 years it had worked well with my older son and my younger son just followed along and we never had an issue. I also felt it was important not to hide good things and have them around as they grew up.
There was a tiffany pitcher, decorative plate collected from a Japan trip, other gifts of crystal that was given to us at our wedding. All in all pretty pieces that each meant a lot. All family and friend knew that these were collected and prized. My sons knew to avoid and not play around these items.
The adults were in the kitchen talking and the children playing and chasing when all of a sudden the loudest crash and glass sounds, children screamed and ran to get us. We went rushing in to see my son laying near a very heavy glass table that was now flipped over and crushed and smashed every piece of china on the coffee table.
My first thoughts were of his safety, and he looked fine, but dazed. He had been chasing a cousin when he fell, hit the top of the glass coffee table, flipping it over and spilling all the pieces onto the floor, only then to be crushed by the glass coffee table now falling on it. Luckily when he put his hand on the table as he fell, he fell one way and the tabletop went the other.
Once all was found to be OK with my son and no one was hurt, the guests cleared out quickly. I think they knew it needed to be cleaned up and I did not want help. I knew at that moment that today was the day if I could ever get him to say the word sorry from his lips… today would be the day. This was something that he had never been able to do, even at home and was somehow tied to the selective mutism. What happened over the next two hours would change his and our lives forever.
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There comes a time when you just have to accept what was going on. My son lived in two worlds, the world of the speaking, and the world of being selectively mute. He did not seemed as bothered as we were that he did not speak. He seemed very happy. The summer was filled with his talking and growth. Neighbor children came to play, he went to play, so normal, so regular, so talkative. Go to a school friends house, no talking, parallel play, so different.
He was about to turn 5, and we decided not to send him to kindergarten and to give him the gift of another year of preschool to see if this all worked out. He still could not say his was sorry; without spelling it, he was talking to us about why he thought he was not speaking. He just said, I can’t or the words just don’t come out.
The use of medications to treat option was returning as the only next choice, with all the other paths we had followed not finding a solution. We were still resistant. No protocol for children of this age, side affects TBD. It was just not the desired out come. The more we reviewed this with the Dr. the more the message was clear. Do you know what potential this child has and that you as his parents are preventing this from happening.
We felt awful. We felt as though there was not one else in this world that was bucking the system and saying no. We finally agreed, if nothing changes by the time he was to go back to preschool we would reluctantly consider medication options. Hope for it to work itself out naturally was fading. Just like the long days of summer coming to an end, the school year loomed just two weeks away.
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The school year was drawing to a close and options were needed. Do we send him for an extra year of preschool, or as they say a “red shirt “ kindergartener? Do I try to find some other program that is willing to deal with the condition and try to improve it? The current preschool he was as just ignored it, as though it did not exist, was this a good thing or a bad thing. Did it allow the selective mutism to exist and continue since no one made a big deal of it. Would it be the same thing for the next year?
Encouraged by my neighbor, I called the school district to find out about the speech services my child even at 4 was entitled to. I called and spoke to the district coordinator and told her what the situation was with the selective mutism and told her I understood we qualified for services. Her reaction was …well …can you afford to do something privately? Yes. …Well then I would recommend you do that, because you are too affluent to be provided services….. what…. I am a tax paying person and why would I not be able to quality? There are much more needy people than you and we need the spaces for them. I thought this was for children with special needs. Yes and your child is not special needs. It is not classified as a need. What….her tone was very apologetic. Look you just do not fit the disorders we cover and do therapy for and you are better to find your own private resources. He does not qualify for speech therapy because he does not speak!
Again another dead end.
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The big day arrived to seek more alternative options for selective mutism and we went to see and visit the cranial chiropractor. We arrived at the office and it looked more run down than I would expect and more like an accident treatment center. This had been a big debate to take this next step. What happened if the doctor cracked his head, like they crack your back and something happened? All sorts of concerns buzzed in our heads. How would they move his plates in his head and how did they get moved in the first place. Or do heads even have plates at his age. It was all a blurr.
We were all taken into a room, asked a series of questions, whoever we did not most the questioning as to how this works, had he done any other selective mutism cases…..well no….but it is a proven method for many symptoms like his. We hesitantly agreed to proceed.
Head x-ray, clear… we could stay in the examining room for the treatment. Quite music was put on the lights dimmed slightly and the doctor begins to rub his head like a scalp massage. A scalp massage is what we are paying all this money for……
The one thing we did notice is my son really enjoyed the light touch message. Which help us allow this to continue. At the end the doctor said he had done some adjustments and we would need to come back for a series of sessions to see results.
Results!!! Well maybe, lets see if we see an improvement and call you for another appointment. It did nothing and we never returned to the cranial chiropractor.
It was another dead end. After telling our neighbor who was a school teacher about the days events and no talking progress, she told us that the school district is mandated to provide speech therapy and pre school for children like my son and I should look into it.
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The house was a buzz with neighbor children, my son interacting, playing and speaking to them as normal as could be. Which was always the case that he could speak to his brother and the neighborhood kids.
They were playing tag and staying out of the living room. Why stay out of the living room? All my good china pieces were displayed in there on a coffee table and the boys knew not to go near Mommy’s good things.
The children played and the door bell rang. Surprise, surprise, …wink wink, … look it’s your little friend from school has come to play!
The children all came to see who had arrived, my son too. Was this the moment that would be the break through? I held my breath. Oh, it ’s XXX, why don’t you take him in to meet your friends?
My sons face began to change right in front of us. When he looked at the boy I could see it was clear he was happy he was there, but there where other aspect now overtaking him. He took his hand and walked him into the group and then proceeded to be really be… selectively mute. He spoke to his friends, but not to his school friend. It was as though he lived in two worlds and could keep them totally separated even if they were together. The little friend from school was so happy to hear him speak and not happy that he was not speaking to him.
So we now knew the association with school triggered the selective mutism.
I would take my son to the grocery store and the same thing happened. Speak to the neighbors we ran into and not to the school families. I found it frustrated and strange of how he could keep it all straight and not mess up the two. But to him it was not a mess up, it was how he thought and the brain and anxiety must be a key as the doctors told us all along.
It was at the end of the school year, he would be turning 5 in a few months and we knew we could not send him to kindergarden , it looked like he would have to do a red shirt year at pre school.
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The cranial chiropractor visit was one we really debated about. Should we, should we not. My feelings were that we owe it to our son to go down as many paths and as many dead ends until we find a solution for this. So we agreed we woud go down this path next.
We already had tried looking at diet, watching what he ate, tried to get yeast out of his diet. This did nothing.
We did get the homeopath to say from his findings that he did not think it was from lead poisoning, or vaccine relatead from a vaccination, like is tied to autism.
Or was it somehow tied? We have tourette syndrome in our family, could it be tied to that? No one had the answers we were looking for. Each time we some it opened up more questions than solving anything.
Months have gone by and many thousands of dollars have been spent. He is not speaking at school and the teachers see no change. Just his love for play doe.. and a boy that will play next to him for hours and not mind one bit he does not speak with him. What a blessing that little boy was. A friend perhaps if we have him to the house they will speak.
I arranged a play date for next week and see the cranial chiropractor on my to do list for next week.
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My voice is now partially back and perhaps that is the subject of today’s blog.
Since regular medicine was not working on my son with selective mutism, we started to look at Alternative Medicine Our journey out of regular medicine to hopefully find a path to his recovery. At least we hoped.
At first, it lead me to read a lot on the web site in what was known about the condition. We called and got an appointment with a homeopath who was very well referred. It again took 6 weeks to get an appointment. No insurance taken and cash paid We arrived not knowing what to expect. I was so hopeful, my husband was very hard headed and thought this path was going to be a bunch of crock. Perhaps we were both correct.
The waiting room was full and there was a room off to the side that seemed to be an area where the formulars for healing were being dispensed. Many would come to the window, they would mix up a special liquid, place it in a brown glass bottle and they would leave. Humm
We met Dr. B and he asked all the normal questions. After about 20 minutes, he said lead us to his work area and said, lets get started.
Get started, what did that mean? We went to a chair where he asked me to sit down and put clay beads around my neck. Placed a probe on my finger and asked me to hold my son. WHAT!!!
He explained that the beads would neutralize my energy and my sons energy would come through and he could register the voltage based on putting the probe in different bottles he had and come up with a diagnosis.
I was still hopeful, my husband had checked out mentally at this point. My husband looked at this a quackery, I looked at it as a chance we had to take. I was measured and tested and after 15 minutes asked us to join him in his office.
When we got in there, we asked him did he know of selective mutism. No… in my mind I said, a bad sign
He did accurately told us us our son had a respiratory issue and suggested for the selective mutism or unknown issues we were having with our son, the paths of regression hypnosis and cranial chiropractic. HUH.. What … regress my son back to a past life?… yes.. he said, or a head chiropractor. Yes correct.
What will that do? I think the plates covering his brain are pressing causing the issue. OK and who does this? A cranial chiropractor. I had never heard of such a thing.
He then gave us a whole bunch of info that was written on a paper bag and filled the bag with assorted herbs to try with this issue.
Since I did not want a child of 4 going to be regressed into a pass life of who knows what, we opted for the cranial chiropractor. It would be another 2 weeks until we could get in…
